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Noah Rasheta: Six Tips for Mindful Communication

Listen deeply. Try to understand where the speaker is coming from and why they are saying what they are saying.
Be present. Give the speaker your undivided attention. Put down your phone, turn away from the screen, put away other thoughts. Your attention is a gift.
Make an effort to understand. Communication is bi-directional. Try restating what you heard.
Be non-judgmental (skillful). Dispense with assessing if you or they are right or wrong.
Don’t make it personal. It’s not about you. It’s not about your identity. It’s about what you are each trying to accomplish.
Exercise non-attachment. Recognize neither of you are what you say; there is no permanent self attached.

From Secular Buddhism with Noah Rasheta (#72 – Yanny or Laurel? A Lesson in Mindful Communication)

Noted: In Defense of Puns

December 20, 2018 / Chris Lott / 0 Comments

In Defense of Puns

A sweet excerpt from James Geary’s latest book. He is punstoppable. I am punapologetic.

Puns straddle that happy fault where sound and sense collide, where surface similarities of spelling or pronunciation meet above conflicting seams of meaning. By grafting the idea of evil onto the word for apple, Saint Jerome ensured that every time we recall Adam and Eve’s fateful disobedience in the garden we are reminded of the fruit of a deciduous tree of the rose family.

From the beginning, punning has been considered the lowest form of wit, a painful fall from conversational grace. What other form of speech is so widely reviled that we must immediately apologize for using it? “Sorry, no pun intended.”

But puns do not deserve such a bitter appellation. Despite its bad reputation, punning is, in fact, among the highest displays of wit. Indeed, puns point to the essence of all true wit—the ability to hold in the mind two different ideas about the same thing at the same time. And the pun’s primacy is demonstrated by its strategic use in the oldest sacred stories, texts, and myths.

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Punning folds a double knowledge into words. To make and understand a pun, you must grasp two things at once: the primary, apparently intended import of a word or phrase, and the secondary, usually subversive one.

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The frisson in the ship captain’s reply to the first-class passenger who asks if he can decide for himself whether to help row the lifeboat—“Of course, sir, either oar”

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Coleridge considered punning an essentially poetic act, exhibiting sensitivity to the subtlest, most distant relationships as well as an acrobatic exercise of intelligence, connecting things formerly believed to be unconnected.

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Lamb did write several essays on punning before he breathed his last, including one entitled “That the Worst Puns Are the Best,” in which he vigorously defended paronomasia, arguing that “the pun is not bound by the laws which limit nicer wit. It is a pistol let off at the ear; not a feather to tickle the intellect.”

Source: https://www.theparisreview.org/blog/2018/11/15/in-defense-of-puns/
Via Hypothes.is: https://via.hypothes.is/https://www.theparisreview.org/blog/2018/11/15/in-defense-of-puns/
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Austin Kleon’s Ten Ways to Stay Creative

December 16, 2018 / Chris Lott / 0 Comments

I must not be the only one looking forward to the release of Austin Kleon‘s latest book Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and Bad…it isn’t due out until April but it is #1 in a couple of Amazon sales categories.

Until then, as Kleon shared on his page about the book, here are the 10 methods described in the book (and Kleon’s own talk that inspired it):

Every day is Groundhog Day.
Build a bliss station.
Forget the noun, do the verb.
Make gifts.
The ordinary + extra attention = the extraordinary
Slay the art monsters.
You’re allowed to change your mind.
When in doubt, tidy up.
Demons hate fresh air.
Plant your garden.

Gail Sher’s Four Noble Truths for Writers

December 5, 2018 / Chris Lott / 0 Comments

Gail Sher’s One Continuous Mistake: Four Noble Truths for Writers is a quick, insightful read. I recommend it. But the core principles, those four noble truths, are right on the back cover and worth making of (literally) what you will:

Writers write
Writing is a process
You don’t know what your writing will be until the end of the process
If writing is your practice, the only way to fail is not to write

Shawn Achor’s Happiness Practices

October 16, 2018 / Chris Lott / 1 Comment

Gleaned from “happiness researcher” Shawn Achor’s 10% Happier podcast interview with Dan Harris, five practices for being happier, which Achor defines as “the joy you feel moving toward your potential.”

Gratitude (2 minutes) — Write down three new things you are grateful for each day. Be specific and write down not just what, but why. As you instill this practice, your brain will be “building a background app” to scan constantly throughout the day for positive things to note the next day.
The “Doubler” (2 minutes) — Record one positive, meaningful experience from the day (or day before) along with at least three details of the experience.
The “Fun Fifteen” (15 minutes) — 15 minutes of cardio activity, even a brisk walk.
Conscious Act of Kindness (2 minutes) — For example, sending an email or note of praise, writing a charming note, performing a Random Act of Kindness, etc.
Meditation (2-XXX minutes)

Side note: Achor observed that practices of gratitude and mindfulness contribute to creating a healthy “emotional immune system.” Love that.

October 11, 2018 / Chris Lott / 0 Comments

Should Emotions be Taught in Schools? Yes. And it shouldn’t stop in high school or college. The lack of attention to the whole self of students as their days are broken into different classrooms and topics is appalling.